"Getting married"—this is the sweet phrase of many couples. After being in love for a long time, it's finally time to say goodbye to singlehood! Nothing can stop us now, right? But wait a minute! Even a lizard's call can make us jump! I have firsthand experience facing challenges (clenching my right fist and my eyes wide open). Let's listen to my thoughts on the 5 signs to pay close attention to before tying the knot.

1. The Mother-in-Law and Daughter-in-Law, and Father-in-Law and Son-in-Law Issues

When my partner first introduced me to their family, everything seemed warm and everyone had a sense of humor. Less than a year later, as I became more involved, their parents started to resemble my own more and more. Once we get married, as a daughter-in-law or son-in-law, we must always remember to "be patient." If we forget this, life can feel like a plunge into a pit. It’s even worse if our spouse never stands up to their parents. Therefore, in addition to getting to know your future husband or wife, you should also get to know their parents.

2. Feeling Controlled: A New Problem That Often Leads to Trouble

I believe that no one likes to be controlled by others, especially when it comes to personal matters. Before marriage, it may not seem like a big deal, but within a month of being married, strict rules about returning home start to emerge. Even simple things like wanting to have breakfast while watching TV like we used to when we were single become impossible. Marriage is about sharing life with someone, not about having someone control your life, and we shouldn’t control anyone else’s life either.

3. This is Mine, and That is Yours
I’ve seen many couples who are married but still insist on dividing everything—money, belongings, even needing two TVs and separate bathrooms. Some couples even insist on having separate bedrooms. Hmm, what’s the point of getting married then? While it’s true that married couples should have personal space, it should be within reasonable limits. If your partner still has a lot of personal space, it might be better to stay single and grow old alone.

4. Signs of Violence
Especially for women, be cautious and suspicious about any signs of aggression or violence. Don’t wait until it’s too late to realize that your partner wasn’t this angry before. If you see your partner lose their temper and throw things for the first time, it could escalate to violence. Therefore, during the dating phase, take the time to observe and understand their behavior. When love blinds us, we often overlook these signs until it’s too late to turn back.

5. Even the Topic of Children Can Be a Big Issue
Recently, a friend who married a man from a different background called me to share her struggles. They had to live apart temporarily due to frequent arguments about her desire to have children, while her husband has consistently refused throughout their five years of marriage. See how just the desire to have children can easily lead to a breakdown in a relationship? Therefore, while you’re still dating, it’s essential to discuss such topics openly to understand each other’s thoughts. Don’t let these issues become problems after marriage.

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