Time passes quickly, and we all age every second. The time that has gone by brings various changes to our lives constantly. New things emerge, while old ones come to an end, including both old and new relationships. Everything can be called life experiences, allowing us to learn from both good and bad situations, both joy and sorrow. These stories of happiness and suffering help us become accustomed to the changes we face, leading us to realize that happiness doesn't last long, and neither does suffering.

However, some people may still be resistant to acknowledging sadness or suffering, refusing to accept the reality they encounter. Remember, happiness is something everyone can experience, but suffering is different. If someone encounters it and manages to overcome it, they can grow significantly. We must not forget that "suffering" is a reality of life. Today, we encourage everyone to practice their thoughts and minds to become accustomed to sadness and suffering, so they can accept it. Because when suffering comes knocking, it’s not strange to say, "Come on in, suffering!" We are not afraid of you; in fact, we might even appreciate you. Today, we will guide everyone to learn how to grow from facing suffering!

>> Use RQ to adapt and face difficult realities <<

Did you know that besides IQ, which measures intelligence, and EQ, which measures emotional intelligence, there is also something called RQ (Resilience Quotient)? This refers to the ability to adapt, confront difficult realities, or cope with crises in life. This is an important skill—the ability to be flexible and to heal emotionally when faced with adversity. A happy person may not be someone who is happy all the time, but rather someone who can endure difficult situations without breaking down. This shows us that those who grow have often gone through various sufferings and have managed to stand at their current point.

We don’t mean to suggest that we love encountering problems. However, as we face more situations, we learn to deal with problems more effectively, with a more neutral mindset.

>> Suffering often brings us new experiences <<

As people go through different stages of life, they encounter many stories, which serve as new experiences for us to understand. Especially disappointments from life and love, disappointment makes us feel sad and uneasy, teaching us about gain and loss. When we feel sad, it may linger for a while, but eventually, it will fade. When we face problems and recognize them, we learn how to solve similar issues in the future. Experiencing sadness and suffering, when we overcome it, is happiness. Simply put, if we never encounter suffering, how would we know what happiness is or where to find it?

>> Practice accepting various situations more <<

When people are sad, they sometimes reach a point where they must force a smile for those around them and quickly pull themselves back to a good feeling. At this point, we can accept the reality of what has happened. Notice that sometimes adults who are going through sadness must be strong and not show weakness to those younger than them, to demonstrate that they must not be weak, no matter how sad they may feel. We often view those who can manage their sadness well as having leadership qualities and maturity compared to those who cry and lament, even if the latter may be feeling deep sorrow. They must smile and move past that point faster than others, which naturally makes them appear more mature.

>> Learn to laugh at the bad things that come our way <<

Problems and suffering that come our way will eventually pass. Happiness and suffering cannot stay with us for long. As long as we are mindful that everything that arises must also fade away, both good and bad, we should not cling to them. We must always be aware of ourselves, moving past sadness and suffering each time. Believe it or not, practicing mindfulness and accepting reality often leads us to find humor in our situations.

Once we move past sadness, the ability gained from practicing mindfulness remains with us, allowing us to think more about ourselves, both positively and negatively.

>> Think of problems as "dogs" <<

This point may sound a bit strange, but we want everyone to think of the problems in life as "dogs." When we stare at them, they stare back at us. If we run away from them, they will chase us. But if we chase after them, they will run away from us. Therefore, when we run away from problems, they will follow us everywhere. However, if we stop, they will also stop. If we take action to solve the problem and manage our suffering, that problem will move away from us. This is the most natural thing.

If we learn and understand this nature, we will realize that ultimately, we will conquer our problems. We will not run away from them but will be ready to face them as soon as they arise. This is the life we must lead, knowing how to manage it before it manages us.

>> Feel the desire to be good and regret when doing wrong <<

When we feel regret and begin to notice that the feeling of regret is fading, we start to become aware of what we have done recently. We may realize that we have acted inappropriately. Reflecting on this, we think we do not want to act that way again or that we will do everything possible to prevent such events from occurring in the future. This accumulation will make us more aware of right and wrong, and we will not want to behave poorly because it causes others pain. Just feeling the desire to be good is already a step towards growing.

Many people go through different experiences, and it is normal for a person to have both good and bad traits. Therefore, there is no need to judge anyone. Most people, if strong enough, would want to be good. This can be seen in the lives of those around us, where we notice that people generally want to be good rather than bad. Even in dramas, we cheer for the heroes and heroines more than the villains, right?

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